Friendship audit

Come to think of it...

Your friend's friend can never make a negative comment about you unless your friend once mentioned something negative about you to them. I mean, they can only know you through your friend and the talk can only continue if your friend decides to give them room to gossip about you. It only starts with the people in your circle. Yes, the ones who should be covering your nakedness in public

I don't know if am making any sense to you...If it's not a positive talk even when it's about your enemy...stop it immediately! You're drowning your blessings down the river. Allow me introduce you to three ladies who were close friends but two of them were best of friends. Let's call them A, B and C. These ladies would sit down and talk and talk and talk, sometimes fir a while day, with no positive word ever coming out of any. They knew the liars, pretenders, prostitutes, drunkards, failures, separated couples, the dirty! I mean they "existed" in everyone's personal life and knew every corner of another person's life. They had this open spot within the compound that served as their "kiti Moto." This was the the place where all the gossips would take place. It was strategically placed so that they would notice anyone coming and switch the topic.

I hope I mentioned to you that A and B were best friends. A lived with her sister but since B was the decision maker, A ended up mistreating her sister and revealing her secrets to B and C. Every time the Masengenyo squad would see A's sister, they'd through words and laugh at her. A's sister left since it had become too much for her to bare. Soon, A would go into a disagreement with B which saw the end of their friendship. C got an opportune moment to act the mediator, little did they know her main intention. A and B turned out to be like sheep and dog, never meeting face to face without B giving her a taste of bitter insults. B and C become great friends since they'd a common enemy who's A.

Talk of women being their own enemies and downfall. B utilized her friendship with C just so she could add salt to the already injured relationship between A and C (C is the rat kind of a friend. The one who hugs while stabbing the back. She had always suspected A of having an affair with her hubby but she was always acting out.) One sore evening, C attacked A and insulted her in and out, deep and shallow  with her secrets, openly in public and it was such an awful scene. Passers by came to have themselves a line or two of A's dirty linen. B and C would call A and her sister names or even laugh at them whenever they came into visibility. Have you ever heard that saying that states that God will scatter your enemies? Yes, it really is true. A, B and C are nolonger friends. They are all handling things at personal level.

The whole story is generally about twisted friendship, talks and messes. If only A had kept her sister's weaknesses and avoided the bad mouthing, B wouldn't have had a ground to insult A's sister. If only B would have kept A's secrets despite the end of their friendship, then A wouldn't have faced so much embarrassment on that evening! You see how messed up it is? Funny enough, those are the kind of friendships we've always found ourselves in. Friendship where talks are just about plots of bringing our "friends" down.

Don't sit on a table where the talk is always about others because you'll be the topic once you leave.  

That's awakens another story in me. A story of friend who was concerned about his friend's wellbeing, welfare and development. He sympathized/empathized with her. 

Sameer Ali was a student at Maseno University. His lady friend was disabled and was on a wheelchair. Staying at the main campus and attending her classes at Siriba campus. Sameer is a muslim and the lady, a christian but that did not bar Sameer from being the lady's main support in her campus life. He took it upon himself to be pushing the lady all the way across the campus even when he'd no classes. Her market trips were covered. Her shifting from a bus to her chair were easier because she had a neck to hang on to and a hand to support her. He was a total blessing to this young lady until they graduated and I know her campus days were worth it because she met an angel living in a human being. No strings attached, different religions, different ethnicity, different cities but brought together through the power of friendship. How beautiful?.

As you audit your friends, do you have principles that guide you? Are you the one that can heal the world of lack of loyalty and sincere friendship or are you joining the crowded group of people who make bad friends?.

Every kind of friendship should build you, not destroy you.
Have yourself a lovely friendship life.